When most people think about the term “sociopath” or “psychopath”, the common association is with a violent criminal, such as a serial killer, However, most sociopaths/psychopaths are “subcriminal”, meaning they manage to avoid conviction for major crimes. Unfortunately, the mental wiring that allows the serial killer to callously commit homicide is the same wiring that exists in these subcriminal individuals. As a result, sociopaths leave a wide swathe of destruction in their wake – from broken hearts to empty bank accounts. While only a licensed mental health professional can officially diagnose a sociopath, here are 9 signs to watch out for if you are wondering if an individual in your life could be a sociopath/psychopath:
1. Failure to conform to social norms, feels that the laws do not apply to them as they do to society at large. This may or may result in an actual arrest. Sociopaths often display criminal versatility.
2. Deceitfulness, as indicated by pathological lying and manipulations. Sociopaths will con others for their own practical benefit, or simply for pleasure. This means they often live a parasitic lifestyle, hustling others into paying their way.
3. Poor impulse control, an inability to plan ahead and take into account the ramifications of actions. These individuals are often sexually promiscuous and have many short term sexual liaisons. Easily bored, these individuals need constant sources of stimulation.
4. Aggressive behavior, as evidenced by fistfights or other violent incidents.
5. Reckless disregard for safety of self or others. Sociopaths often lack the same “danger” reactions that the rest of us have. This leads them to ignore or be less aware of situations where a non-disordered person would be reacting with a “fight or flight” response.
6. Consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by inability to maintain gainful employment, or meet financial obligations adequately. This can also include an inability to follow through on commitments, such as marriage.
7. Lack of remorse. Sociopaths/psychopaths will either feel indifferently toward, or rationalize their actions toward others, regardless of the pain they cause.
8. A sense of exaggerated self worth, a view that he or she is a superior human being. This often goes hand in hand with a sense of entitlement, that he or she deserves special treatment.
9. Shallow emotional depth, an inability to relate in a deep or meaningful way with others. This is often paired with a superficial charm and outward gregariousness toward people.
